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Looking Back

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Let me confess a few things now. I no longer smoke, use abusive language, cheat, lie nor leave the toilet seat down. Wow, I was indeed a mess, and by no means a saint before 2005. Looking back on my life, never would I have guessed that a man would see passed all my flaws and see beauty and brains. It was something I did long for desperately, but did I believe it was possible in my lifetime? Maybe not, but it did happen. Today, I stumbled on our wedding photos and video. It was the last captured moment of my family with my aunt still alive. Kavan and I were married November 26th 2016 and my aunt died a few months after that. We went from extreme happiness to extreme grief and found out early what our marriage was made of, and if we would be able to cope with the ups and downs of the relationship. This sure #LooksLikeLove to me...

Suicide | You Decide

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*I sought permission from my husband to publish this article strictly due to the content and deep level of honesty which I am about to share.* If not for the love and grace of God I would be dead today--->Diosa "Youuuu, you have a big nose dread..." said the stranger to me, as he passed by the vehicle my son and I were in waiting for my husband to finish his shift at work. He wore the uniform my husband wears, so my first thought was to ask Kavan who he was. This man had no front teeth, gums ablaze...shoot he reminded me of Malik a well-known character on the soca scene here in Barbados. He sure was not as cool as Malik though, and I do not think Malik would go around the place insulting women just for the hell of it. Then again, I do not know Malik personally, so let me not make such a statement. *pretend that I deleted the line about Malik* I told Kavan about the encounter immediately upon reaching the vehicle. He told me he knew who the guy was and not to be c...

Post Honeymoon Phase

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No recent photos of smiling faces, only albums of drool and gummy smiles. No new dinner reservations or fun couples' outings. Since our last post, WOW, some 375 days, 21hrs and 53mins ago, we had a major transition. From a newly wedded couple, full of excitement and promise, to parents of not just one, but now two wonderful sons. This baby had a purpose before we even knew he was here. From the daily morning sickness routine, we are proud to call Liam Amari Khalfani Jackman ours. We are both learning as we go, me more-so than ever before. One would like to think that being a second-time mom would mean experience and some level of expert knowledge, but it seems only changing diapers and breastfeeding remained on the server of my mind-drive. I am learning this thing all over again. I find myself sitting and asking myself how my first son survived me as his mother for 9 years...but the only answer I get is God and His ever abounding grace. No one can convince me otherwise of...